How to Make Stress Your Friend

Ted talks: How to Make Stress Your Friend

Summary
The speaker is. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal
Stress is usually view as bad for health, but what decides stress is bad or good maybe depend on how
you think about stress. In a study conducted by Harvard University, before they went through the social
stress tests they were taught to rethink their stress response is helpful that pounding heart is preparing you for action if you’re breathing faster, it’s getting more oxygen to your brain and participants who learned to view the stress response as helpful for their performance well. There's another reason is that when you think your
stress as helpful, your blood vessel relaxed which reduce chance of getting heart attack or stroke.
Besides, Oxytocin makes you to do things that strengthen close relationships, it makes you crave physical contact with your friends and family it makes you more willing to help and support the people you care about. When oxytocin releases as a response to stress it’s motivating you to seek support,  to surrounded by people who care about you.And it's in the some point reduce your stress.

Your pounding physical heart working so hard to give you strength and energy and when you choose to view stress in this way you’re not just getting better at stress actually making a pretty profound statement,

you are saying that you trust yourself that you can handle life’s challenges and you don’t have to face them alone.

What can listeners learn from this talk?


I think that whether stress is good for your health or not all depend on how you think about it, this speech has given me a whole new appreciation for stress. Next time, when the situation is out of control, I am going to think to myself,"This is my body helping me rise to this challenge" and when I view stress in that way and my body will  believes me and my stress response become healthier.
Oxytocin, you release more of this hormone then your stress response becomes healthier,and you actually recover faster from stress.

when you think your stress as helpful you create the biology of courage

and when you choose to connect with others under stress you can create stress resilience.